I keep seeing people complaining about feeling ignored. And some weeks I feel ignored, too. And sometimes I talk to people who have tried to say ‘no thank you, I’m not interested’ in 546378 different ways, and people take that as ‘I need to be more creative and persistent’.
It’s time we were honest;
Sometimes, an RPer is just not that into you.
They are begging for threads when it’s their turn on replies. They have a wishlist but they turn you down when you ask. Communication has drawn to a halt. You start every message with ‘hi sorry to bother you’. You nudge them repeatedly and they are unresponsive.
… they are just not that into you.
Here are some reasons why this might be the case:
You’re trying to write yourself into their background and it doesn’t work well with their headcanons.
Your writing styles are just unmeshy things. Oil. Water. Bam.
They don’t agree with some aspect of they way you play your character (and this doesn’t make you wrong; just incompatible). <– especially canons tbh. We all see them differently. Which is great.
They don’t mesh with some aspect of the way you run your blog generally – more ooc than they are comfortable with, too much negativity about fandoms, characters, ships or people, too many photos of your stamp collection.
Your styles clash. One of you likes heavy formatting and structure and the other likes things plain.
What you initially discussed is not unfolding right for them.
They just don’t feel it.
They have a lot of threads and they don’t want to cut down on others for one they’re lukewarm about.
None of these things are likely to be the case:
They hate you.
They think you suck.
This is NOT about ‘quality’ (i hate that word being used around here). It’s about compatibility.
Let me ask you… can you really enjoy a thread knowing you had to harass someone into it? I doubt it.
I am not talking about people who take a little longer than usual to reply, because our lives fluctuate. Or people who have long breaks (hooray, they have lives!). I mean when someone is around a lot and it’s just a constant impasse. Or your messages never get answered.
This does not mean you are a bad RPer. This means one thing: You are not compatible with the other writer. That is all, and it doesn’t reflect badly on you, or on them.
If someone goes on a date and it flops, we don’t blame them, right? And they can still be friends, or civil, or leave on okay terms.
This is a huge world. Really there are thousands of us. It sucks when someone you want to RP with just doesn’t seem that interested. But someone else will be interested. Stop chasing people who aren’t. It will be easier for you both.
Browse your dash, find and collect these little cuties by clicking on them!
Want to see your hardly earned Pokémon? Go to your XKit Control Panel and check Pokés’ settings page!
I won’t ask you if you’re a boy or a girl, but I will go and tell you: Gotta catch ‘em all! Be the first to finish the pokédex! (And don’t forget to show us once you managed to capture them all!)
We have a lot planned for this extension, so be hype!
And like always, if you got any problems, don’t hesitate to either join our live support chat or with a github account our gitter chat!
If you are experiencing the missing posts issue, the current work-around seems to be editable reblogs from the http://new-xkit-extension.tumblr.com/ As long as you make no edits to your partner’s URL, your replies appear to show up.
I have yet to see any post about a work-around for tampermonkey or other ways of continuing to edit your reblogs without tumblr eating your replies.
There have also been reports that if you try and use tampermonkey and new xkit’s editable reblogs at the same time that it actually makes things worse somehow. So if you are using tampermonkey it is recommended that you temporarily disable it if you want to use the new xkit.
It is also good to note that while posts are not showing up on the dashboard, or mobile dashboard, they are still viewable from the dash on the mobile app (or at least the android version) and also if viewed directly on the blog.
TL;DR: Disable tampermonkey, use new xkit + editable reblogs, and any changes that you are used to making to your partner’s URL so that the reply was shown with the last update will make the entire post disappear with the new update.
ALSO: Go to support and POLITELY tell them that you want your editable post chains back. If they want to give users the OPTION to lock individual posts/post chains so they can’t be edited that would be fine, but forcing people to find these ridiculous work-arounds simply to use the site as it used to function is ludicrous.
fyi, if you are looking for a particular post in your blog and only remember a certain word or phrase, you can always do this:
So I guess I’m not doing a giveaway anymore. I apologize to the people who were looking forward to it. Someone reported my post. I do hope it makes whoever reported it feels warm and fuzzy that you ‘got your vengeance.’ But, in truth, you’re not punishing me, you’re punishing the 422 people who choose to follow me for my art. It wasn’t something I was doing to ‘get more followers’ or ‘get a bunch of notes’. It was a thank you to the people who support my art. I have never been one of the artists in this community that gets a lot of notes on my art or had fanboys. I have slowly but surely gained followers. And because of that, I appreciate all of you.
As I am now aware that giveaways are against the ToS, (I’m pretty sure it wasn’t when I signed up for tumblr however many years ago, but I digress) I won’t be doing another one. I will however continue to post my art and do commissions. I apologize again to all of my followers, but this is out of my hands. I’m so sorry guys.
Guess I won’t be planning on doing anymore of these, myself. Unfortunate, considering a vast number of artists on this site actually do use things like giveaways to increase their follower base, which in turn helps promote their work and potential commissions.
Disclose all rules for your event, including entry methods, prizes, etc,
Formally release Tumblr of any association/accountability/liability when it comes to your event,
Entrants must be 18+,
Participants must reside in the event’s country of origin.
MOST IMPORTANT since most tumblr art giveaways tend operate this way, and are most likely what gets Tumblr officials’ attention:
Entries cannot be made or considered via follows, likes, and/or reblogs.
A possible method around this is to create and link to something like a GoogleDocs form. There, people can formally enter their information, and have those entries collate into a private spreadsheet of yours. From there, you can carry out your selection process for winners.
Important information!
Attention tumblr artists!
I’ll be thinking of ways to abide by tumblr’s ToS for future giveaways.
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